Today, I have visited two coffee shops...yes, you're reading it right, two coffee shops. And now I am on a caffeine high and must record what I have seen today.
My first visit was to Neena's Coffee Cafe near Summit Avenue in St. Paul. I really recommend going to this place. Not necessarily for the coffee, however for the ambience. Chalk boards with the coffee choices, old upholstered chairs that have seen many ends, mid-century lighting, wooden booths, newspapers everywhere....I simply love these places. These places that you can find in the cities, hidden, yet waiting for your arrival. I can tell there are the regulars here, the one's who sit in the same place and have the same coffee. Then there are the new people (such as myself) who wander when finding a seat and who pull out their cellphones to text a person, just to show people that they are in fact not complete loners. Everyone though, is doing their own thing. Surfing the web, playing sudoku, reading a book, or talking intimately with the person sitting across from them. And while it all seems so open and relaxed, I can't help but get the feeling it is all a facade and that we are in fact all isolated at our seats.
Then I drive to the burbs and the same thing goes for Caribou coffee here in Eagan. It's a chain, same decor as the one in the local grocery store, yet the people sit here. Different people, but doing the same thing. Doing their own thing from drawing, talking on the phone, to being on the internet. It's all a show, it's all so isolated. Maybe these people are like me just trying to have some 'alone time', yet why go to a public place? Why not stay at home where you can do the same thing?
What I'm trying to get to here is, we want seclusion in our lives. We want to be by ourselves and do our own thing. Yet, we put ourselves out there to be seen, heard and thought of differently than we would in any other setting. We go on facebook because we want people to know that we infact do have a life and personality that hasn't been seen. We go to a coffeeshop to make ourselves appear deeper, with a better sense of self. Is it all a facade? Is it all a show? Perhaps. I can critique everyone else, but I see that I am a part of the crowd. I am the same coffee drinker/laptop user/girl with converse sneakers and thick glasses goer.
I'm just like the rest of them.